Coping with Holiday Stress

Holidays are a time for joyful celebrations, but for some they can be fraught with anxiety and depression. Many things can contribute to feelings of loneliness and sadness at this time of year, including missing a loved one, putting excessive pressure on yourself if you’re hosting a gathering, or simply over-extending yourself with family obligations and children’s schedules. Also, with the shorter, colder days of winter, many experience seasonal affective disorder (SAD).

Warning signs, says Cleveland Clinic psychologist Dawn Potter, can include trouble sleeping, loss of interest in activities you normally enjoy, and extended periods of anxiety or nervousness.

There are many coping mechanisms to get you through the holidays—or to help others who are feeling emotionally unstable. Often acknowledging the absence of a loved one, such as sharing memories, can be therapeutic. Those who are uncomfortable in large gatherings shouldn’t be afraid to decline invitations or leave parties early, advises Dr. Potter.

Boundary setting at this time of year is important, so allow yourself to steer clear of those you don’t feel comfortable around. Dr. Potter recommends spending time with people who bring you joy and happiness, whether they’re your own family members or members of your “chosen” family.

For some people, charity work or volunteering can provide an opportunity to connect and ease loneliness. Dr. Potter also advises keeping away from social media, which can portray the lives of others as unrealistically happy. “Remind yourself that the holidays are about connecting, quality time and sharing joy with others and not just one ‘perfect’ photo,” she says.

Talking to someone—a friend or a therapist—can help ward off holiday stress. Sharing your feelings will go a long way toward helping you manage them.